Chronic pain=Guilt
March 17th 2008 19:39
My dad is 81 yrs old.l.He lives alone.He's stubborn.Things with my parents were always rocky.After our mom died 5yrs ago, he made some crazy choices.
He's ill,hospice is stepping in now.Which is what my mom had.So, all the feelings from that time have resurfaced.This time there some things are different.I have 5 siblings.Two live 9hrs away.The rest of us are close by.
Two want no part of my dad. That leaves my sister and myself. But, she has ms and parkinson's and I am wrapped up with chronic HIGH LEVEL PAIN.
So,I started thinking about people with chronic pain and the situations we face. It's hard for those who are young, school, work, kids.Some people my age,50, may still have kids at home.My youngest just moved out.But when you have elderly parents, you are facing an obligation that you cannot handle.On top of that, you have the burden of guilt.
Yesterday,my dad had a fall. He got up from the recliner and hit his head on the marble top coffee table. He ended up at the er getting four stiches in his forehead.They kept him over night for observation.My sister has a friend who is taking him home.
One good thing is that my sister is a nurse and worked for hospice.So, she has the knowledge.
But the situation is very hard. I want to be there more for my dad. I know there must be alot of migraineurs, people with other types of chronic pain must be going through this,too.One sad thing is my dad is a WWII Vet. I just feel there should be more available for veterans. My dad was on the Enterprise one of the times it was hit.I feel people that have put their lives on the line deserve better.
Elderly deserve better. As a society,we kind of shove them aside. I want this time for my dad to be better.He deserves better.
There have got to be alot of people carrying this burden of guilt
He's ill,hospice is stepping in now.Which is what my mom had.So, all the feelings from that time have resurfaced.This time there some things are different.I have 5 siblings.Two live 9hrs away.The rest of us are close by.
Two want no part of my dad. That leaves my sister and myself. But, she has ms and parkinson's and I am wrapped up with chronic HIGH LEVEL PAIN.
So,I started thinking about people with chronic pain and the situations we face. It's hard for those who are young, school, work, kids.Some people my age,50, may still have kids at home.My youngest just moved out.But when you have elderly parents, you are facing an obligation that you cannot handle.On top of that, you have the burden of guilt.
Yesterday,my dad had a fall. He got up from the recliner and hit his head on the marble top coffee table. He ended up at the er getting four stiches in his forehead.They kept him over night for observation.My sister has a friend who is taking him home.
One good thing is that my sister is a nurse and worked for hospice.So, she has the knowledge.
But the situation is very hard. I want to be there more for my dad. I know there must be alot of migraineurs, people with other types of chronic pain must be going through this,too.One sad thing is my dad is a WWII Vet. I just feel there should be more available for veterans. My dad was on the Enterprise one of the times it was hit.I feel people that have put their lives on the line deserve better.
Elderly deserve better. As a society,we kind of shove them aside. I want this time for my dad to be better.He deserves better.
There have got to be alot of people carrying this burden of guilt
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